Independence – What would you do if you didn’t have it?

As its July 4^th, Independence Day, this week in the United States, I sit back and think of how many people don’t even think about having independence. People today just think it’s a given that it’s there and don’t think – what would their life be like if they didn’t have it? 

Governments - Independence versus Communist Rule

As the United States has celebrates its 237^th birthday, did you know that this special day wasn’t a federal holiday until 1870? Yes, that’s correct! Congress didn’t make it a holiday until 1870, but wasn’t a paid holiday until 1941. Unbelievable but true. Then there are some other people that say that America wasn’t anactually independent until August 2, 1776. Why is this? This is because the Declaration of Independence wasn’t fully signed until August 2^nd.  Then why does America celebrate it on that day? It’s because Congress, in a closed session, actually passed the wording of the document, The Declaration of Independence, on that day and only 3 people (Thomas Jefferson, John Adams, and Benjamin Franklin), to my knowledge, signed it.

On the other hand, those who live in Communist Rule countries know little about the Independence that the US forefathers wrote about.  Some people, who live there, don’t think about what they could be gaining (freedom of speech to name just one freedom) by not living in their country, and that’s because they are used to living this way and that’s fine by them. Much of what they say and do in these regions of the world is controlled by the government. Some people can and do like living this way and others who are tired of living this way move to countries which they do have their independence.

History IS important

In fact, back in the late 1800’s many people immigrated from one of these countries to places like the US. My ancestors were many of them that took this time to leave the countries of their birth and moved to a country, as young as it was, showed what they considered safer, secure and more of a promise than the one they knew. One of the common says “Stay with the evil you know or the devil you don’t know” comes to mind. For some, this was a huge change for them as they left everything they knew and loved behind – including loved ones.

 

I know from speaking to my grandmother, who immigrated to the US when she was a young girl, that she didn’t know what to expect but knew it had to be better than what they were living in. Then she saw the Statue of Liberty and said that it was huge and beautiful she knew that she was finally safe. I didn’t entirely understand what she was saying, until this year when I started to research the conditions when she left Poland with her mother and meet up with her father after they cleared Ellis Island. Recently, I spoke to my father about them coming to the US, and it opened my eyes to exactly what the family went through before they arrived at Ellis Island and my respect went up another notch.  If only I could have been a bit older to completely understand when my grandmother was alive, I could have sat there talking to her for days.

As for which government is better, is a bit of a mix feeling and thoughts when I sat thinking about it. In a way both are pretty good with the government being a large mother and father to the people rather than the mother and fathers of the independent state being the ones to regulate what happens. That being said, I don’t feel I could probably live with a government dictating to me what I could and could not do.

That being said, with the recent privacy issues being released by Edward Snowden, regarding the government’s surveillance, people are concerned about this issue. I’ve heard and read about people saying it goes against laws and liberties and what makes the US the US. This I can understand, however, this has happened before – remember back in World War 2? – and it goes along those lines, I believe, the government is taking this stand.

In the past nearly 10 years, we have had 3 major buildings terrorized, countless near attacks and recently the Boston Marathon bombing. If you think back to what you felt each time these things

2013 Boston Bombing

happened, is the reasoning behind why the government is trying to do the surveillance that they are. Do I like it? No, however, I understand that when I was calling into the US from Australia, I knew there were people listening in as you can hear the clicks and hesitations that tell me someone else is on the line but I know if that’s what they have to do to keep my friends and family safe, then that’s what they do. My life is not that exciting for them to listen into, but if they want to be extremely bored by my life then leave them to it. Because compared to what my grandmother and great grandparents went through, a few listening in clicks are a lot better than having someone I love killed by someone that they could have stopped.

My grandmother, Jean, in the 1980's.

So this week when you think of the US and their free liberties, also think of those who don’t have those liberties. Some of them want those liberties but don’t have the means or will power to get them unlike my ancestors. Each year when this holiday comes around, I think of what my grandmother’s face would have looked like as she sailed past the Statue of Liberty and how she felt so safe and NEVER give that up – NEVER give up my US citizenship. I did make that promise and I WILL keep it because it means even more now, today, then it did when she asked me to give that promise. 

secure that she asked me, her granddaughter, before her death to promise and swear that whatever I did in life, to

So what will you think about on this day of Independence?

Remembrance – what’s in a word?

When someone says remembrance, what do you think of? Some think of soldiers who have fought, so we can be free. Others think of their loved ones who have passed and whom they miss and others just say, “So what? It’s just a word?” or is it just a word?  When you take a look at the word remembrance, I find that it is such a small word for the feelings and emotion that it brings to some of us.  In which group do you find yourself falling into? 

When I was growing up, I was in the “So what? It’s just a word” group. However, once I started thinking, learning and feeling I started a journey that has brought me across all of these groups one by one. Where am I now in this journey? I’m across them all I have to say. Why you may ask? This is what this blog post is about. 

Remembrance of those who have fought for us to be free

When I was in my teens and 20’s, I started to understand little by little just what these soldiers in all shapes and forms have done for us and some have paid the ultimate sacrifice of their lives. This was a difficult understanding for me, as I was a US Navy brat growing up. I felt we were all given the short end of the stick when it came to the people who served.  It seemed to me that all we (as military brats) received was a parent (or in today’s world – parents) gone most of the time, when they were around we were either ignored or told to be quiet or put to work. Even when there was a public holiday or after a day when they were away from work, we “lost” them to parades or committees. 

J. Sherman (Staff Sergeant, U.S. Army Air Force)

my mother's cousin who died in World War 2

On the flip side, once I learned about my mother’s cousin, who paid the ultimate sacrifice in World War 2, I understand why soldiers do what they do. Now every time there is a time of silence, I think about why they went into the service and what the ones, who never returned to us, must have been feeling in those last moments.

So, yes, we may be military brats, but we are also the ones that are there to support and remember the ones who are never to return to us for making that ultimate sacrifice. We must think not only of the soldier that have made that sacrifice but those of us who are there to support and grasp what little time we do get with them even as hard as it may be.  Think about it - if we didn’t have those soldiers to make those sacrifices, where would we be today as the country you may live in and as you as a person?

Loved ones who have passed and whom we may miss

We all have lost someone that we love. Whether it’s a close family member or someone that we might not have known we all still do remember or think of what they could have been like.  There are people who are gone, and we sit there and ask over and over again, why him and not someone else. Then there are others that are gone that you wish you could have back just for the tiniest moments to get a hug, some advice, or find out what their life was like. Unfortunately, the time for all these things is in the past, but that doesn’t make remembering them any different.

The headstone of my grandfather, Louis, 

and his sister, Florence, near New Windsor, NY.

Now as I’m getting older, I’m finding myself ask questions about the ones who have passed whom I may and may not have known. By researching my family history, on all sides, I’m finding I keep asking myself, what would that person have been like? Would they have been someone everyone liked or were they an abusive person (either mentally or physically) in which their own children couldn’t even stand?  Couple that with history of the different countries and governments, and after a while, you could really start to understand why people could have been like they were but keeping in mind things may not have been as they have seemed. Remember it’s only been in the last 20 or so years, that people don’t keep up appearances as they once did. Further, things that were socially acceptable over 20 years ago are not so acceptable now – and vice versa.

In my thoughts at this point in the year, my remembrance meaning is about what we, as a couple, have lost personally. If I had been able to carry to term, we would have a 10 year old child this week. It does seem hard to believe, but it would have been a fact. It came down to the simple fact that either both of us would not have survived or only one of us. The fact is I was the one that ended up

surviving because the baby was in the wrong spot. As with the other loved ones who have passed, I sit here thinking about what would the baby been like – it’s personally, looks, and character. This is something we will never know, because that baby, child, tween has never been born unfortunately. This is where my thoughts are this week in regards to remembrance. Does that make any less meaningful than the other loved ones that have passed? No, but to me, it is something we’ll never have, my husband and I, with this baby.

In closing, recently I asked people on my Facebook account what the word remembrance means to people on there, I had the responses of:

• Someone's life, memories
• Funerals and lives lived
• After someone has died, thinking back appreciatively about all the good things they have done in their lifetime
• Slouch hats, the last post, medals

All of which I have covered here in this blog entry. Remembrance is what you bring of it and that’s a lot like life – we can sit there and remember but we also have to get out and live life – both those who have lived and who now live would want us to do that, but there come times when we just have to stop and take a break and to remember them. If we don’t, some of life’s lessons may get overlooked. I know when the end credits roll for me (as the George Strait song goes) I want people to think of me more along the lines of hero rather than villain.

The Meaning of Father's Day

As we know, Father's Day comes around once a year for most people. For us, we have 2 because the US has a Father's Day in June and Australia has a Father's Day in September. Therefore, as we have fathers in both countries, we have 2 Father's Days and this is special.

The Meaning of Father's Day

 The meaning of Father's Day to me is to celebrate someone who has always supported, loved and been there for you no matter what. It’s the feeling of being secure and knowing that no matter what you've done, your father will always be there for you.

That doesn't mean that there won't be fights, disagreements or punishments as children need these for boundaries are while growing up. In many cases, these will bond a father and a child together and as both get frustrated, upset, and angry but it all works out in the end because of the love, respect and feeling of being secure. These relationships make us who we grow up to be and we pass beliefs from one generation to the next.

As for all the great things Father’s Day means, it also has the other side of the coin for some – those who think it’s their right and to show “affection” by physically, sexually and mentally abuse children. In my view, no one should go through the physical, mental or sexual abuse, but if we face reality, there are people out there who do and think that is their right and it’s no one’s right. Many countries are backing this view up with various against abuse agencies in many countries - from abuse of children and spousal (Australia) and children and spousal (US). If you suffer from one of these, please report it to the authorities because that's the only way to get them help and ensure that it doesn't happen to others.

Ranges of Relationships

There are ranges of relationships from seeing them every now and then to having contact with them every day all day. Each relationship is different; however, sometimes people on either end thing it’s either too much or not enough. The difficult part is being able to be truthful about what you want from the relationship and being able to communicate that to the other person in this case – your father.

I’m not saying that it’s an easy task because all relationships are hard work, but sometimes they fail and that communication, no matter how hard you try, will continue to fail but sometimes the communication will work and everyone will feel better for it. I can now see you thinking, well how can we get the communication to work? Honestly, I don’t know. I think it stems from the type of relationship you had while growing up – if you had a great relationship and feel you could sharethings then it will probably work. However, if you had the type of relationship where you were told one thing and something else was done or felt undermined at every turn in different ways, the communication probably won’t work.


 In closing, in my opinion, even if you had one of the latter types of relationships, where communication was very hard to do, I would still probably keep trying. Let’s face it, we all only have one father – sometimes we get another try by having step father’s and father in laws – but the fact remains your genes will only have come from only one female and one male. Remember that once that male, or father, dies and you don’t have a chance to communicate with him, you lose the relationship and all the history that he is passing down via views and history from that side of your family. I know that trying to keep those communication lines open is very hard (and in some cases very tiring!) work but just keep asking yourself, who’s really going to lose out in the end?

Here's a picture of my father and I in 2011.

What your view? Do you agree or not agree to my point of view? Please comment and let us know what you are thinking.

14 May 2013

Hello everyone.

I know I haven't been around but its been a busy month for me. Hubby and I went to Sydney and he's was off for 4 weeks. Then when he did go back, he was on and off for about 2 weeks between taking certain days off and his normal one day off per fortnight because of the economy. Then add to it that I started to teach at Mulgrave Neighbourhood House and in the last few weeks started back at my TAFE course that I'm taking.

Currently, I'm working on updating our website to it becomes more currently regularly which, for you as a reader, will be a great thing.

Once things settle down a bit, I will start to post regularly here and in my professional blog in Wordpress.

15 March 2013 - Still around

Hi everyone.

Sorry I haven't been around. I got sick for about 3 weeks. At the same time I started my classes through Chisholm TAFE and started teaching a class at Coonara Community House. As you can see, I've been kind of busy.

Its now about a week until the end of the term and I still have 2 assignments to turn in. One is basically written up, but I can't do anything more until the teacher gives me approval for the last assignment I turned in. The last assignment then will be my database class. I'm really struggling through this one because we're talking about MYSQL instead of what I was using - MS Access and the like. I will get there, but its going to take a bit to get used to it. Its hard to believe I'm about 1/4th of the way through this Certificate 4 already. 

Anyhow, I've decided to post something because I've added a button on here, which I'm hoping will working.

Cheers
Jo Ann

29 January 2013 - A New Beginning

Hi Everyone & Welcome to those of you who haven't read this before. :)

As everyone who knows me, knows, I've been fairly busy with my job for the Vic State Government. However, since the afternoon of 25th January 2013, I no longer have a job. Yep, another redundancy. Great. At first it hurt, then the thought of all those people we were helping and they are not going to get the help like they were any longer. That, in turn, will reflect upon the learners we are helping; however, the state government does not see it that way. They needed to "cut the fat" and so decided to slash our department by 50%.

Anyhow, its time to move on and get back into my IT knowledge. Thankfully, I've had 3 major organizations ask me to help them out - 2 by teaching and 1 by stats. The stats one, is having problems because of requirement problems (ie they say they haven't submitted the documents, but they say they have). The other 2 asked me to teach digital literacy but only one has given me paperwork to fill out.  On 6 Feb 2013, I will start teaching 2 classes - Intro to Word and Computers the Next Step.

As if I was in any danger of being board, I've also signed up to take classes to get my Cert 4 in Web Based Technology. I figure I love doing that type of stuff, so why not get something that I love. That started today. Although I'm a bit confused as usually we get power point presentations and books, but it seems all I've got are links and not really any documentation. Very confused on that one.

Today felt like I was on holidays instead of being basically unemployed.

Once I got going, I went for a 3 km walk with Buddy. He's now computer exhausted and sleeping away. Then I measured up some windows thinking maybe I'll get some new blinds on the bottom of some of the rooms. I also made a list of some stuff that I need for my desk. Off I went to the local shopping centre to find some of the things on the list. I put some pictures in to be printed, but with the salesgirl's attitude, I wasn't going to stick around for a 3 hour break. Then I came home and put most of the things away and ate lunch. By that point, Brett was almost home from work.

I did get to watch most of the news, Home and Away, and Packed to the Rafters. Thankfully all the shows are coming back on. Packed to the Rafters was pretty good. I felt for Rita because we have gone through miscarriages and things. I do have one annoyance though - why don't you finally let Ben get on with his life? Why keep bringing up his dead wife. I can understand having a hard time with the death, but come on - its been years. Give the guy a break and let him move on already!!

I figured as I'll be online more and have less and different responsibilities, I'll start this blog back up again. I'll also have to factor some time in to redoing the websites.

Can I get any comments out there? Or am I sitting here talking to myself? (Its probably the latter but Ohhh what fun I have!! *grin*)